Modern day Love

               What is the reason for this topic, you ask? Well, of course, you should ask, because you are my precious readers. Well, the answer is that I have come face-to-face with a very harsh realization. What is that you ask? It is that the definition of LOVE from past to the 21^st century has gone an 180⁰ around.

                

                 Love is a feeling, a feeling in which you can get completely lost. All you do is think about that person, what they are doing that very moment, wishing they were right next to you. Caring and loving are different too. When we care about someone, we help them. But when we love someone, you become selfless towards them, placing them above your own needs. You get them a rose or a chocolate they love, every time they come back home from a long journey. You do everything in your power to make them feel special, not just for the first six months or only when they are relaxed and happy or when it is easy. You keep doing it for the other months too, also when they are angry or upset or when it get as difficult as it can get.

                

                  You stand next to them, support them, motivate and inspire them. You feel proud to have them in your life since they are so amazing! Love is forever. You try your best to make it forever. You fight for them, stand up for them. Love gives you the strength to face all odds. Love is a promise that you can never break. If you do, then that is not love.

                   And what the present generation thinks, is wrong. What you feel is not love. It is called “the want of feeling needed”. It has become so common. Not everyone, but most teens in present day scenario. What happens when one person falls in love with you? You start feeling that you like them too and you jump into the so-called “RELATIONSHIP”. You go around, saying you are “COMMITTED” to each other, without even knowing what the word means. You go to movies, have lunches and dinners, plan about the future and yeah, “MAKE OUT”.

Is this love?

                

                   Whats worse, in Indian society, love is all about sex and nudes. You need to get physical with the person you are in the relationship with or at least fantasize. You claim it like you have some kind of right.

Is this love?

                

                    When two people are completely into each other, sex is not a necessity. It is just another way of showing out your feelings. I repeat, ANOTHER.

                

                     You can hook up with a total stranger and see each other off the next morning without having any slight feeling because that was just sex; no love, no bond, no connection. Same thing with the person you love, waking up next to each other, is all the happiness that you need. Maybe you just cuddled into each other’s arms, kissed each other good night and slept peacefully. Spending a night with the person you love doesn’t naturally mean SEX. They can just be next to each other, looking into each other’s eyes, feeling happy, feeling content.

                

                 There is no rule like ONE LOVE, ONE MARRIAGE. It’s not a rule that you HAVE to love someone; neither there is a rule that you have to marry only the person your parents choose, for their happiness. You can love more than once. Love is all about feeling comfortable with a person, finding happiness in the other person. We suffer from heartbreaks, yet we reassemble those broken pieces, join them, and live on.

  Just because you have been with more than one guy in your past doesn’t make you a SLUT, not until you cheat on them. I am mentioning the girls majorly because they suffer from verbal abuses every day.

                For those who have called a girl a slut, or have made fun of her, you might face the same one day. You might be a witness of something tragic. And that time will you be able to live with yourself knowing you were a reason?

                Some of the points I have written from my own experiences; some I have learned from my surroundings. It was bold, but it was my duty to share the harsh reality. You all can judge me for this, but remember:

                       "YOU NEVER REALLY KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON IN ANYBODY’S LIFE. SO YOU CAN EITHER MIND YOUR  OWN BUSINESS OR BE A PART OF THE CRUEL WORLD."